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Most parents and guardians will eventually face the decision about allowing their teen to attend a party or be asked to host one. Below are useful lists to help ensure that a party your teen attends will be a safe one. When hosting, it is equally important to create safe setting for all those who attend, especially your teen.

When Your Child Is Invited to a Party

• Call the host parents and thank them for hosting the party.
• Offer your assistance with refreshments and/or supervision.
• Ask if alcoholic beverages will be allowed. If you are uncomfortable with their response, you may have to tell your child he/she cannot attend.
• Know how your child will get to and from the party.
• Know when the party is to begin and end.
• Make it easy for your child to leave the party if there is any behavior which makes your child uncomfortable. Discuss these situations in advance and let your child know it is OK to call your or another designated adult, whatever the time, for assistance.
• Be sure your child knows that he/she can receive a citation for just being at a party where alcohol is available. They do not have to hold or drink any alcohol to get in trouble.
• Be up and available to talk when your child comes home to encourage communication and alert you to a potential problem.

How to Host a Teen Party

• Suggest changes if necessary, but try to be tactful. Set specific beginning and ending times for the party.
• Check your child's guest list and party plans.
• Consider daytime parties as alternatives to nighttime parties Provide a theme or activity: skating, swimming, renting a movie, bowling, etc.
• Set ground rules that are clearly understood by both you and your child in advance.
  These include:

  "Kiss your child good-night. It's not only loving, it's a good way to check for alcohol use."

  • No alcohol or drugs - remember it is illegal to serve alcohol or other drugs to minors, even in a private home.
  • Parents are legally responsible.
  • No smoking.
  • No leaving the party and then returning.
  • Limit the party to certain areas of your house.
  • Leave the lights on.
• Try to reconcile your child's plan for the party with your own standards. Don't compromise your standards, but be understanding of your child's feelings.